You are in the middle. There are three options you need to choose. It is either you will move forward, go back, or to stay stagnant. Sometimes, you may think that you are not capable of achieving a certain goal. Maybe, it is because you are afraid to take the risk or you do not have enough courage to continue. You are experiencing such dilemmas because you are too pessimistic. Do you want to know to do? Start to add optimism.
Why is it important to stay positive even after getting negative comments from other people? You are giving yourself the chance to go on with your goals in life. Successful people follow their dreams. They do not pay attention to their fears. Fear is only in our minds. There is nothing to be afraid of. As what Confucius said, “Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall.”
If you are scared of defeat or making mistakes, just think about Thomas Alva Edison. He made 1,000 attempts to light up the bulb but those were all unsuccessful. However, he didn’t give up. Edison still continued with his work until he successfully lit up the bulb. He, then, said, “I have not failed 10,000 times. I have not failed once. I have succeeded in proving that those 10,000 ways will not work. When I have eliminated the ways that will not work, I will find the way that will work.”
Are you ready to start to add optimism to your everyday life? If yes, you may continue reading this article to help you in determining what choice you need to pick.
Focus on the solution
Looking beyond the problem is better than thinking about why you have it. Never stress yourself too much in thinking that you will not get through any hardships. Make the situation better rather than to keep yourself drown in your dilemmas. Rather than complaining, start thinking of innovative ways to solve it. Change how you perceive things and so that you may also start to add optimism to your everyday life. Everything is just a matter of perspective.
Do mental training
Training your mind to be strong is important to help you deal with every situation. If you are not determined, confident, and focused enough, you may not be mentally confident. One of the important factors of having a tough mind is you know how to be resilient. You have the capacity to know when to get back on track despite the mistakes and failures you did. Resilience means you are not allowing yourself to give up. You know where to get up and move forward.
No, you are not narcissistic for doing this. There is nothing wrong with telling yourself: “you did well today, self”. If you will wait for someone to give you a pat on the back, you might end up getting disappointed. If you are in the middle of a problem, you are the only person you can count on. It is not that you do not need your friends.
You are the only person who knows yourself more than anyone in the world. Whether you accept this or not but the quote “Everyone is born alone and dies alone” is somehow true. However, if you think that it is difficult for you to deal with it, call someone you can trust. When you focus on the mistakes you did, you are allowing yourself to make more mistake. What is that mistake? You are giving yourself a limit.
Try to imagine that the world is about to end. What will you do? Would you allow yourself to only settle for less? Is it okay for you that you are not doing anything to make a change? If not, then start to add optimism in your life. It is time for you to be brave enough to do the things you thought that is impossible to do. Your time is ticking. Are you going to only do the things inside your comfort zone? It is time to smash down that barricade between your fears and your dreams. Let yourself win this time.
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